Picture this: Saturday morning at 8.30am. You are frantically peddling and sweating in the midst of a Spinning class led by a buff and bubbly Antonio who plays Rihanna and tells the class they have almost reached the summit. This image could evoke varying responses based upon your lifestyle preferences. Yet, one thing can be agreed – for all the physical good such a situation may deliver, it can hardly be described as comfortable.
Similarly, picture the salad you munch on that afternoon in line with your health buzz. The kale/chick pea/sunflower seed combo may be the most nutritious meal to pass your lips but is a far cry from the carb and fat rich extravaganza of conventional “comfort food”. Again, good for you but perhaps not so comfortable.
And so I come to the comfort zone. In this case I refer to the realm of professional life and personal relationships. The comfort zone frequently means you’re in your stride, in a place of familiarity where not much is challenged or challenging. This, of course, has its merits.
Yet the reality is that when it comes to personal and professional growth, the comfort zone is the obstacle rather than vitally nourishing. To learn more about yourself and enrich your social world, sometimes following up chance encounters can lead to a new and unique friendship. Equally, to extend yourself professionally, networking in your chosen field can be the key to inspiration/new skills/your ideal job.
I realize that entering a crowded room or online group of strangers with the goal of appearing supremely impressive is not most people’s cup of tea. From what I’ve seen in my career so far, the chance encounters born from networking can yield the most perspective broadening experiences.
Still in my experience getting some people to network is about as easy as getting a child to eat its vegetables. With this admission, I thought I would provide four tips to making networking not quite as nail-on-the-blackboard experience:
1) Choose groups based an a common interest: For example, your University’s alumni group. Here you have airtight conversation about the good ole’ days to ease into the “talking shop”. Even better if this is professional networking, join a group that is specifically focused on your chosen field. You will have the comfort (see I used the word!) of knowing you have similarity with every other person in the room.
2) Bring an ally: This may be an obvious one but the use of an ally is specific. They can help you enter a crowd and ease those initial daunting moments. BUT (and this is essential) you need to part once that early awkwardness has passed. Step out for a call/bathroom break and when you return you must re-enter the group without explicitly seeking out your ally. This is when you introduce yourself to someone and start working your magic.
3) (This will be one that few recruiters will advocate)
Avail of the open bar/happy hour: First and foremost, this does not mean you should get trashed. You won’t exactly exude competence and savvy if you’re passed out in the corner. That being said, there is nothing wrong with a little bit of Dutch courage to loosen you up and get those initial nerves out of the way so you can focus on speaking like the intelligent person you are.
Do you have any other tips for people new to networking? Share your thoughts and experiences below!